Contrast is Essential

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We are so great at thinking and talking about what we do not want, aren't we!? We can dwell in that place for days, months, years, and beyond. Why do we do this? It serves no purpose. It only allows us to be stuck there and to attract more things into our lives that we do not want. This can be anything we do not want: Financial hardship, a bad relationship, health issues, a mean boss, self loathing, moving to a new state, a job, a messy home, and the list goes on. When we continually have these thoughts in our conscious mind, our sub-conscious mind is busy at work bringing what we are focusing on into our lives. Knowing what we do not want is called contrast, and contrast is neutral and contrast is essential. The best way to become clear about what you do want is to briefly (as long as … [Read more...]

Inspired By My Teenager

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This week, I am spotlighting one of my daughters. Ryan is almost 15 and she wrote this real account of a situation that occurred last weekend. This post is peppered with so much humor, truth, and life lessons…I had to share it with all of you. Please be encouraged to share this with your family and especially with your children. I also challenge you to go out there and Take Action as a result of being inspired by her words! Because Together is Better, As pretty much everyone in Arizona knows, there was a monumental and destructive rainstorm quite recently, causing many people immobility for hours. Arizona is commonly known for all of the dirt we have here, and that's exactly what came rushing onto local streets everywhere due to the storm. Now, this rainstorm was unlike any petty … [Read more...]

Helpful Cliché

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My mom was the Queen of clichés when I was a child and she still is. If there was a situation that warranted a good use of a cliché, she would use one. I learned, and ignored, many life lessons based on whether I paid attention to my mom's clichés and applied them. This talent of pulling clichés out of a hat like a magician was inadvertently handed down to me as soon as I had my own children. I spew them off instinctually while my kids look at me confused, just as I used to look at my mom. I really think if more people paid attention to these wise words and put them to use, the world would be a less chaotic and calmer place. The other day, one of my daughters was getting out of her shower and she did not do a very thorough job of cleaning the glass with the squeegee. I made her go back … [Read more...]

Move Over Pride and Ego!

move over pride and ego

I have known so many people throughout my life who let their pride and ego get in the way of forgiveness. I have been one of those people at times. I'm sure you have as well. I know it is hard to forgive sometimes. It feels like it is a "give" on our part or like we are excusing the wrong behavior...but we also rationally know that hanging on to a wrong only hurts us. We are so stubborn at times. What makes us think that not forgiving someone is healthy or will do any good? Why would we think that holding on to that negative energy will hurt the other person? The energy of un-forgiveness is so very heavy. When we look at it in that light, it seems so very silly, doesn't it? We are intentionally hurting ourselves...that is so counterproductive! I know that when we are in the emotional … [Read more...]

Want or Need?

wants or needs

This past week before the kids went back to school, I did the "Annual Purge". We go through all their clothes, hand down the sizes, and go through all the bins. It is quite a production. With three girls still living at home, there are a lot of clothes and shoes to go through, hand down, and donate. We do this before we go school clothes shopping, so we know what they need and what they want. We have so much. Sometimes kids have a hard time deciphering between want and need. Many times adults have the same struggle. We buy things we think we need, but we really just want. It is amazing when we start to clean out drawers, closets, and shelves how much we have. I know several families who have so many things that they can't even park in their garage. Why do we think we need to keep … [Read more...]

One Simple Change

One Simple Change

I am like many people, in that I wore braces on my teeth as a child. I was in the sixth grade and I only wore them for a very short six months. As I entered high school I stopped wearing my retainers and eventually they were misplaced. With this being the case, my teeth began to move back to their pre-braces position. So, in my early thirties, I decided to have braces put back on so my teeth could again be straight. After a year of wearing braces, my teeth and bite returned to the straightness that I so love. Since then I wear my retainers every night without fail. I am writing about this, because during my adult-braces-wearing-phase I learned something really great. Each night after dinner, I religiously brushed and flossed my teeth. After spending all that time cleaning my teeth (If … [Read more...]

Don’t Hesitate

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The other day I was pulling out of our neighborhood and onto a four-lane highway. Just as I was turning left, I could see a car out of the corning of my right eye rounding the curve and heading my way. My initial reaction was to hesitate, let off the gas, and make sure the car was going slow enough so that I would be able to make the turn and be safely ahead of it. In a flash, I decided that I had looked before turning and that I had enough time and space. I got on the gas, made my turn, and was way ahead of the car in question. If I had second-guessed my calculation and hesitated just a few seconds, there may have been trouble on the road. As I sped down the highway, I reflected on the past few minutes. All that went through my mind while I was turning was very similar to things that … [Read more...]

Savor Diversity

Savor Diversity

I have been recording commercials that are played on my Radio Segment. (Click Here) This has been such a fun way to meet new people and to learn about different businesses and products! Some people send me their products to try and to use, so that I can give a better and more realistic testimony. I get to listen to people explain their passion and learn about the services they provide. This whole side gig has been really enlightening and eye-opening. It is amazing how much diversity there is in the business world and how people have taken their different passions and have made them into their own money-making businesses. Diversity at its Best: In one day, I had the privilege of recording two commercials: One was for a web site that offers workshops, conferences, one-on-one sessions, … [Read more...]

Lose the Fear

lose the fear

Fear is quite an interesting thing. It is different for everyone and comes in all shapes and sizes. Some fear lasts a lifetime, and other fear seems to mysteriously appear out of nowhere. Fear can cover a huge spectrum; from fear of getting a splinter to fear of dying. What is fear exactly and how do we overcome it? Since fear is a personal thing, and not everyone has the same fear, how does it become ours? How can one person be afraid of heights and not be afraid of spiders? I have met people who honestly are not afraid of anything. Doesn't this make you want to learn more about fear? The notion of fear piques my interest as well. Fear is a psychosomatic response, meaning it is purely emotional and mental. This implies that it is different for everyone, depending on the individual's … [Read more...]

From Victim to Victor

victim to victor

We all have our reasons to be and feel like a Victim. We have all been through situations that seem unfair and have had a negative effect on our lives. We all have had regrets and wished we could go back in time and change things. I am right there with you. I have had my fair share of feeling like a victim in my life. When I was in college, I decided that feeling like a victim and acting like a victim no longer served me. I wanted to prosper and to become a victor. I no longer wanted the negative situations (I call these "Negative Nasties") in my life to control me, my thoughts, actions, and words. I took charge of my life. Are you ready to do the same? I began writing this blog three years ago so that I could help people look at life differently. I write so that I can help people … [Read more...]