Misunderstood

misunderstood

Have you ever been misunderstood? Of course you have, we all have. When we are misunderstood, it doesn't feel good. Our words can get twisted and people can take things the wrong way. When this happens we get a chance to respond. We have a choice: either we can become defensive or we can explain our side with grace. The other day I was misunderstood: A woman emailed me about working with me. I explained that I was going on vacation and that if she requested to be alerted when I returned that I would do so. There is a form she needed to fill out. Well, when I returned she contacted me harshly saying she was going to work with someone else because I did not do what I said I was going to do. She thought I said I would contact her when I was home. I was very professional and explained … [Read more...]

Picking Leads to Festering

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I know this will sound disgusting to you, but it is a true fact: When you have a scrape or a sore or an open wound of some sort, it will heal a lot faster if you do not pick at it. If you do pick at it, it will fester. Picking leads to festering! Fester Noun: A sore that has become inflamed and formed pus Verb: Ripen and generate pus. I know it is sometimes hard to leave those sores and scabs alone. We think, "If I just pick it off then my skin will get back to normal much more quickly." Well, in fact, the opposite is true. When we pick, it will not only fester, it will take much longer to heal. If we do not take care of it and make sure it is clean, we can also develop an infection, which leads to much more pain and suffering. Our wound will sometimes bleed and the healing process will … [Read more...]

A Mental Experiment

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We put such limits on ourselves. We have these beliefs or preconceived notions that tend to control and stifle us in certain situations. I have a need to see. I do not like it when it is pitch black. I do not like being in a room with no windows. I do not like elevators. This can feel like a panic attack and sometimes manifests in the feeling of claustrophobia. This feeling is intensified when coupled with motion sickness. I believe we all feel certain things and have anxieties as a result of childhood or past experiences. We have a stamp on our subconscious that is there until we address it. My fear of not being able to see, I believe, is a result of two tragic things that occurred in my childhood: 1) My big brother (God I love him) thought it would be funny to zip me up in a … [Read more...]

Let’s Act Like Dogs

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If you have ever had a dog, you know that the saying, "A dog is a man's best friend" is totally true. Dogs have so many great character traits, and that is how they came to be known as a best friend. The more I observe my dog, the more I want to be like her. In fact, if we all acted more like dogs, the world would be a much better and nicer place. Of course there are exceptions, as with everything, in that some dogs are mean and hurtful…but I am talking about your sweet family dog here. They have so many lessons to teach us if we take the time to observe. Here are some traits that I have observed in my dog: Loyal – Dogs are loyal like no other. They stand by your side, walk beside you, and will defend you. You can be confident that they will follow you through whatever you are going … [Read more...]

Three Small Words

Three Small Words

The other day I found myself in a situation where I had inconvenienced a friend. It was not intentional, but nonetheless, I made her late to a family event. I apologized when I saw her. But after the fact, this situation kept resting on my shoulders. I felt really awful, as I had no idea I was the cause of her being held up. Two days later, I was still thinking about this. I sent her a text telling her how sorry I was and I asked her to forgive me. She immediately responded that she had forgiven me and all was well between us. She continued to tell me how thankful she was of my three words, "I am sorry". She said those words are not in many people's vocabulary these days, so my words really meant a lot to her. Her words to me really weighed heavy on my heart, as she was right: people do … [Read more...]

Overcoming Stereotypes and Stigmas

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I was chatting over a Starbucks with a friend the other morning and we got to talking about how people can look at the same situation and have a different opinion about it. We delved specifically into "stereotypes" and "stigmas". Those can be such ugly words, with deep meaning and lots of emotions and opinions tied to them. Obviously when someone says a word, you will conjure up all your personal experiences you have had, and they all culminate into your opinion. Let's take the word and profession of Real Estate Agent. What immediately comes to your mind? Well, if you have had nothing but awesome experiences with Real Estate Agents, and all your transactions have run smoothly, then you may have a very positive opinion about people in that profession. If you have never bought a home or … [Read more...]

Keep Everything in Perspective

Perspective

When I was in seventh grade, I received the greatest Christmas gift of all: My dad bought me and my three siblings each a new set of luggage. I loved my new three piece set from the moment I saw it…it was sturdy, red, and it was all mine! I loved it even more as I unzipped each section and pocket and discovered several fun gifts neatly wrapped and stuffed inside. Christmas kept giving, as I opened up the last pocket; inside were airline tickets to Mexico! We were taking a family vacation to Mazatlan, Mexico!!! Boy was I excited! After our fabulous time in Mexico, our Christmas break was coming to an end, and we returned home to snowy Colorado. When we were taking our luggage out of the trunk of our car, I noticed something quite disturbing: My brand new large carry-on piece had "Black … [Read more...]

Come From a Place of Love

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This week, three different people came to me for advice. They all had unique circumstances, but they all had a common theme: They wanted to know how to repair a relationship. One person wasn't speaking to her daughter, one person had a business communication breakdown, and the other person had a conflict with a friend. These all carried with them a wide array of negative emotions. These emotions ranged anywhere from sadness to being straight up pissed off! I know you can relate because we all have been on this emotional spectrum when dealing with relationships. Do you currently have a relationship that needs to be repaired? Each one asked me how they should solve their conflict, and how to approach the other person. Each one wanted to solve the issue and not just leave it weighing on … [Read more...]

If You Can’t Beat ‘Em, Join ‘Em

Join 'em

I don't know why, but for as long as I can remember, I do not like to be tapped, hit, nudged, smacked, bumped, thumped, slapped, smacked, jarred, or patted. I am not sure that anyone likes it, but I seriously cannot stand it. When someone does this to me, I feel like my brain is vibrating. I feel like my whole body is unsettled. I prefer to be touched softly and rubbed. When I am hugged by a "Patter" it takes everything in me to endure the 3 seconds that they are smacking my back with their full affection. A few weeks ago, my husband and I went to The Grand Ole Opry in Nashville, Tennessee. We went to Nashville to celebrate our wedding anniversary. The Opry was really great, filled with music and history that we could taste. As we sat down in our seats, I noticed that the seats were not … [Read more...]

A Decision I Made

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You may find this hard to believe, but I have not thrown up (vomited) in over 26 years! All sorts of flues and colds and sicknesses have traveled throughout my home, around my friends, and family…but I have managed to steer clear of bowing to the Ivory Throne. Even when I have partaken in too much to drink, I stop short of throwing up. I have four daughters, and I was never nauseated, nor did I throw up at any time during those pregnancies. Before I got pregnant, I knew I would feel awesome and not have morning sickness. It was never a question or option. I'm sure you are wondering how this can be. Your inner cynic is shaking its head in pure disbelief. I assure you that I am telling you the honest truth! You see, I made a decision at the tender age of 17: I do not like to throw up, so … [Read more...]