Recognition…Make Their Day!

Great Job

When I was in high school and college, I worked at a grocery store in southern California.  I remember for the first few months, before I became a checker, I was a box girl.  Part of my duties was to go out into the parking lot for an hour at a time (and this was in the heat of the summer…it was hotter than Heck!) and collect the  grocery carts that people left all over the parking lot.  People would leave them far and wide, and I remember sweating and running and hustling.  I was really doing a great job in part because I didn’t want to endure this duty all summer long.  I thought if I worked by butt off and memorized the produce codes that I would soon get promoted to a checker (that meant no more cart gathering)…which I did in record … [Read more...]

You Are Who You Hang Around


Last weekend my life-long best friend flew out to spend the weekend with me. We stayed at a great resort in Scottsdale, enjoyed the spa, went shopping, hiking, and did a lot of eating. It was a great time…mostly because we connect, we have a history, and we have common values and respect for each other. We are a lot alike. One night after a full day of shopping and eating a fabulous dinner and sharing a bottle of wine at The Roaring Fork, our driver from the resort asked where we wanted to go. We promptly and tiredly said, “To the resort, we’re going to bed!” He didn’t like that answer and instead drove us to The Martini Ranch…where we soon realized it was “Heavy Metal night”…err…not quite our cup of tea! WOW!…are we old!? The music, if you can call it music, was beyond loud! It was … [Read more...]

The Power of Appreciation

thank you

Why is it so easy to have a "lacking" mindset? Why must we continue the dangerous act of comparing ourselves to others? Are we not perfect in His sight? Monitor your thoughts throughout the day...lack is all too common in our thoughts! It all started when we were babies...with growth charts, doctor's statistics, "When did your baby start to walk/talk/read, etc?"  We have grown up in a very competitive society.  Sports, spelling bees, "Student of the Week", being picked first or last for dodge ball, "Why does Sally's Mom let her go to the movies and I don't get to go?", and the list runs right on into adulthood. This is natural for humans to do, and something that has been going on for generations, so it's not going to stop here. … [Read more...]

Why Worry?

Why Worry Lane

Oh my!...We are a bunch of "Worry-Warts" (remember that term?)  We worry about the weather, what we are going to wear, what we look like, about our jobs, our children, what others think of us, about school, our grand kids, our marriage, our bills, our friends or lack of friends, etc.  We worry about everything under the sun; we even worry about the sun! This seems to be a continual, non exhaustive habit. It saddens me to hear people fret and to see stress on their faces and in their eyes, because worrying does absolutely no good.  I liken it to guilt...they are both unnecessary emotions (that is, if we let them make a permanent home in our mind and heart). The purpose of guilt and worry is to trigger a warning in your brain, to let you know you are … [Read more...]

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff


As early as I can remember, I have had the attitude of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" (Small Stuff is Daily Stuff...not Tragic, BIG, Stuff!). When I became an adult, I read this book (below)...and it enlightened me and confirmed that I was on the right track of living stress-free! Do yourself a HUGE favor, click on this it, read it, and let it sink in! You will not be sorry! **For all of you non-readers whose heart rate just jumped up a assured...The book measures a mere 5.5" x 6.5" and each chapter is only 1.5 tiny pages long.  You could read one chapter each day in the time it takes you to go potty! (That's assuming you go Big Potty every day...but that's another blog topic for another day!) Here is a story about a specific event that took place in my … [Read more...]

Deep Tissue Massage

No Pain

As we all know, there are so many wonderful benefits to getting regular massages. Oprah agrees! It relieves stress, relaxes tired and sore muscles, eliminates toxins, improves joint flexibility, and the list goes on.  But...I am not going to talk about the physical and psychological benefits of massage.  I am, however,  going to tell you about an experience I had on the massage table recently that was an "ah-ha" moment for me. Lying on the massage table, receiving the expert physical touch from my gal, Kathlene, I find myself drifting in and out of a light sleep.  I am so relaxed, my mind is wondering and pondering in a hazy state of euphoria.  Then it happens!   She hits a spot...a ball of tension...a knot near my left shoulder blade.  OUCH!!!   She doesn't let that one be.  Each … [Read more...]

Loving the Unlovable


It has been said that the people we are most turned off by or the most offended by are the ones who need our love the most.  Their behavior may seem rude or crude or loud or ugly.  They may be physically not pleasing to look at.  They offer us nothing.  These are the people who are most hurting and crying out for love and attention and acceptance. It's easy to love people who are attractive, fun, and pleasing in their mannerisms.  But that's not what we are called to do. We are to "Love your neighbor as yourself" doesn't say, "Love your neighbor only if they are pleasing to you".  This is a challenge, I know.  To look past someone's physical attributes, to ignore their crass behavior, to really love them is arduous.  We are to look into the heart and soul of people. We are to … [Read more...]

The Heaviest Thing You Can Carry…


The heaviest thing you can carry is a...Grudge!  We all have one or two or more of them...someone who has done us wrong, has made us look bad, or has cheated us in some way. Think back in your life, I'm sure a few come to mind pretty quickly.  When you think of these people and situations, does your blood boil? Does your heart rate pick up? Does your breathing become more rapid? If you don't feel anything but a sense of calm...congratulations, you have forgiven and have moved on!  If you do feel some of these negative emotions...then you are carrying a grudge!  Sometimes that person can even be ourselves,  a relative, or God. Why do we hold onto grudges?  It certainly doesn't make us feel good.  In fact, it is a huge, heavy stress ball that we lug around day after day.  It weighs us … [Read more...]

What We Learn From Little Children


WOW...There is so much we can learn from little children!  If we really take the time to stop and observe and listen to these little beings, we can acquire a great deal of knowledge.  I'm not talking about them teaching us how to change a tire or something of that sort...but rather we can learn from them about humanity, humility, true love, courage, and the like. Little children lead a genuinely great example. Two people I admire and try to consistently emulate agree that children are fabulous and  are great examples...these two people are Jesus and John Denver (I know...funny twosome, huh!?): Matthew 18:1-4 At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, "Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?" He called a little child and had him stand among them.  And he said: "I tell you … [Read more...]

Sometimes we must Believe before we can See


"Seeing is Believing" is an idiom that means "only physical or concrete evidence is convincing"...but I think in many circumstances we need to reverse that and say, "Believing is Seeing".  Some things just can't be proved, some things don't need to be proved.  Faith is an example of this.  We believe even though we can not see.  We have faith in a higher power, we have faith that the sun will rise each morning, we have faith that we will be healed, we have faith that (you fill in the blank). When we want something in our lives, when we are visualizing a dream, a goal, or a particular outcome...we need to Believe and have confidence that this thing we want will absolutely, undoubtedly happen.  We must allow what we ask for to come to us.  We must be receptive. If uncertainty or … [Read more...]