Conflict and Communication

Conflict

Conflict happens all around us and to the best of us. It comes in many forms and it cannot be avoided at times. Sometimes, the conflict is with other people, and often times it is really just with yourself...because it is all in your mind. I have found myself in some different forms of conflict lately, and it sure has been an eye-opener to many great lessons. I have been involved in three different conflicts; two of them were things I needed to clear up with other people. And one was a conflict inside my own head!  Have you ever been in several unrelated conflicts? Sometimes the conflict is just a huge misunderstanding, and with that, good old fashioned communication will put everything back in order. If you are able to find the lesson and repair the relationship then the conflict … [Read more...]

Excitement or Fear?

excitement or fear

I am so excited! I guess you can say I am fearful as well. I have learned that excitement and fear are in the same family, they are just a small perspective shift away from each other. Are you aware of that? You can be afraid of something, but if you shift your attitude and perspective just a bit, then it can turn into excitement. How FUN is that!?!? I have been doing a lot of this lately, and it feels so great! I am stretching and growing so much as a result of this new practice. I liken it to a roller coaster ride: When I am in a line to get on a roller coaster, I am a bundle of nerves. I am watching the steel car whoosh past me at lightning speed, I am hearing the terrifying screams, and I am anticipating my heart dropping to my toes. I am so nervous and afraid. After I get on that … [Read more...]

Everything in Moderation

Moderation

"Moderation. Small helpings. Sample a little bit of everything. These are the secrets of happiness and good health." – Julia Child   Most people know that certain things in excess are harmful and even fatal…such as drugs and alcohol. We know that when we over eat, as we do during Thanksgiving dinner, we feel really horrible…but we do it anyway. Most people have heard the saying, "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy." But some people are coined as being "workaholics". So I guess working in excess is harmful also. I know people who take a good thing, like working out, and make it a several-hour-a-day venture. Is that healthy or not? Did you know that you can die from drinking too much water? Yes, you read it right; it's called "water intoxication"! Anything in excess … [Read more...]

Do You Wash Your Hands Often Enough?

wash hands

The older I get it seems that I wash my hands more often. Part of me washing my hands more often as an adult, is due to the fact that I realize how many people do not wash theirs! This, in short, means that everything I touch, including other people's hands, is probably infested with germs. I have never thought of myself as a germ-a-phoebe…but I am beginning to rethink that notion. Maybe my extreme hand washing is part of why I stay so healthy though. I know that the anti-bacterial gels and lotions and sprays are all the rage, but I personally think good old-fashioned hot water and soap do a better and more thorough job. Plus, the alcohol in the anti-bacteria products smell pretty bad and it is very drying to my tender skin. Sometimes the old way of doing things is the better way, … [Read more...]

When Should You Apologize?

Sorry

The other day I was listening to one of my sisters tell me a story: She and her 4-year-old daughter had just arrived home from a fun day at Disneyland. My sister was unloading her car as her daughter happily trotted inside. All of a sudden my sister heard a terrible screaming noise and immediately her "Mama-Bear" instincts kicked in! With adrenaline racing through her veins, she ran to check on her daughter. Thankfully, the screams were not her daughter. She ran outside again, toward the screams…trying to find the victim and offer help. What she found was a neighbor's dog violently attacking another neighbor's smaller dog. The screaming sound was coming from the smaller dog! The owner of the smaller dog came running out of her house crying and frantically trying to save her … [Read more...]

Character Counts!

character

I am so very lucky to be surrounded by a huge family and tons of friends who all possess great character traits. I guess it's not by chance, as I choose to surround myself with people of quality. Some people are not so fortunate...but that's a choice they are making. What kind of people do you choose to spend your time with? When people display "shady" character traits, do you tolerate it and make excuses for them? I run as fast as I can. Those are not people I want to associate with, as it can only lead to trouble. I'm not saying that I am not kind and loving towards these people…but my Mom always told me, "You are who you hang around…and if you hang around the fire, you will eventually get burned!" I choose to keep a safe distance. Character is such a very important part of your … [Read more...]

Slow and Steady Wins the Race

slow-and-steady-wins-the-race

I was at my favorite dentist's office a few weeks ago. As Dr. Sara was explaining to me how to gently brush my teeth in order to help my receding gum lines not deteriorate further, a thought came to me: I have inadvertently been ruining my gums while trying to keep my teeth and gums healthy. I explained to Dr. Sara that I use a Sonicare toothbrush, which is supposed to be really great for your gums. She cracked a smile when I told her that I brush back and forth and up and down. She told me that with a Sonicare, you don't "brush" your teeth; instead you slowly move the Sonicare around your teeth and gums and let the Sonicare do the work. Makes sense to me. I want my teeth and gums to have a long, healthy life. Also, I am a good patient, and I usually do what I am told…so now I am … [Read more...]

Follow Your Passion

passion

As I talk with people, I realize that most children have a passion and most adults have forgotten what theirs is. I have concluded that most adults were once filled with passion for something, but after getting married, having kids, etc…their passion has fallen to the wayside. Some adults are not married and/or don't have children, but they are married to their work…and their personal passion has become nonexistent. Why is this? Why do we veer away from the things that bring us the most joy? It's sad to see so many people working so hard to make ends meet, while doing something they don't even enjoy. It hit me one night about five years ago: My husband and kids were out for the night and I had a rare several hours alone. I didn't know what to do with myself. Yes, I could do … [Read more...]

Gossip is Ugly

Gossip

I have known many people (sadly, mostly women) who spend a lot of time gossiping. I, too, have been guilty of this evil act, and it never brings goodness to you. Even if there is no direct backlash, you are left with an icky feeling that you have not been true to someone. I think when others talk about people, in a bad way; it is quite possibly the ugliest thing I have ever seen. It makes an otherwise beautiful person look unattractive. It produces so much havoc. Why do people gossip? I think they do it to make them look and feel better about who they are. Why else would you talk poorly about someone else? There is absolutely no benefit to you….unless you are trying to make someone look bad so that you will look better. Webster defines gossip this way: Gossip (noun) – a) … [Read more...]

Personal Freedom

warmth

I had a strange emotional experience a few weeks ago. I was at one of my daughter's track meets. The weather was unusually cold and windy for Arizona…I mean really cold! I do not care to be cold, and I get cold pretty easily. So, knowing this, I wore the proper attire…a hat, gloves, scarf, Uggs, and a jacket. I even had backup warmth…a cushion that protects your bottom from cold, hard bleachers…and it transforms into a blanket! I was going to watch and cheer in comfort and warmth. This was definitely a day to put comfort in front of fashion. As I began to climb the bleacher steps, I saw my daughter and two of her friends walking down the bleachers. Perfect timing! As I cheerfully said hello to her, expecting her to hug and kiss me and introduce me to her friends, she said, "Nice … [Read more...]