Making a Dream List

“In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it.”-Robert Heinlein, Novelist

Are you enslaved by your daily trivia?  Do you numbly move from task to task without much thought?  Are you bored most of the time with your duties? Are you feeling like there has got to be more to life than dirty laundry, runny noses, and Dora? Or maybe you feel like all you do is go to work, come home and work, and do it all over again each day. It is very easy to get stuck in this tiresome routine of parenthood/daily grind.  The days turn into weeks and then before you know it, your kids are grown and you don’t know who you are or what you like to do, or what in life makes you excited and happy! To avoid this trap, we all need to have some goals set in place.

Whether you are a Stay-At-Home-Mom, a business man, a young college student, a grandparent, etc…we all need to have goals and dreams so we have something to look forward to, something to conquer, something to achieve.  This promotes dreaming and action, and is essential to our well-being and happiness. When setting goals, it is a great idea to write them down, putting them on paper gives you a visual and much satisfaction when you can physically check it off!

When setting goals…we need to be SMART:


Be Specific– It is easy to have a goal of ‘losing weight”…but that is not specific or easy to calculate the achievement of it.  A better way to phrase this is, “By (this date), I want to fit into my size __ jeans and I will do this by walking for 30 minutes a day and not eating processed foods!”  The goal must clearly state what is to be achieved, by whom, where and when it is to be achieved.  Sometimes it may even state why that goal is important. What is it you want to achieve? Who, What, Why, Where, When?

Measurable– Are you able to measure your goal(s)?  To measure applies to both the end result and the milestones along the way to attaining a goal.  If you want to make $60,000 a year, you may want to start off that your goal is to make $5,000 a month…which would add up to your ultimate goal of earning $60,000 an year.  Focusing on a little at a time is not so daunting. How much, How often, How many?

Attainable–  Please make sure the goals you are setting for yourself are truly attainable.  You don’t want to set yourself up for failure!  Be careful however, that you do not limit yourself based on what other people believe to be achievable or not. Set your own standards by understanding your own abilities, strengths and weaknesses. Achievable?

Relevant – Your goals must be relevant to what you want to achieve in the short term and the long term.  Understanding your personal vision is a must!  Don’t make personal goals that reflect someone else’s vision for your life.  Goals are personal! Is it important to what you want to achieve ultimately?

Time-Bound – This overlaps with being specific a little bit…but when we have a time limit on our goals, it tends to motivate us!  If you register for a running race…you know that you have to be in the proper shape on the date of the race or you could get injured, not finish the race, etc.  When?

We need different levels of goals: Daily, weekly, monthly, annually, and long-term future goals. I challenge you to begin writing out your personal goals.  The new year is fast approaching, so this is a great time to think about what you want to achieve in this next year and beyond.  Is your goal to eat healthy, restore you marriage, take a vacation, spend more time with the kids, start that business you’ve always wanted to start, write a book, restore a broken relationship, call your parents more often, keep your car clean, organize that closet? It could be a million things…what is it??? Let’s not walk numbly through our days, letting them turn into years…Make your Dream List today!

**Please…write down one or two of your Goals/Dreams in the comment box below… accountability is very important…we all need to help each other…and we are “Better Together”!  We want to encourage you and celebrate your accomplishments!

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  1. Today:
    I am going to use a loving tone when speaking to my kids.
    This week:
    I will refrain from eating dairy and sugar.
    This month:
    I will exercise at least 3x a week.
    By January 31, I will fit easily into my clothes and have more energy. My kids will emulate my tone and be more kind and patient towards each other.
    I will succeed, I will achieve my goals!!

  2. Thanks for the article. Great insight. I want to get back to reading at least one book a month on parenting, etc.

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