The Forbidden Fruit is the Sweetest

“The forbidden fruit is the sweetest.” This cliche is taken straight from a story in the Bible. It refers to Eve wanting to taste the apple from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil so badly. She struggled with wanting it…needing it…undoubtedly even more so because she was told that she couldnt have it. She was tempted beyond her self control. She eventually gives in to her desirewith consequences.

 Don’t we all think that way when something is forbidden or just out of our reach? I know I do.

The other day I was driving down the street and I realized that I left my water bottle at home. I drink a lot of water as a rule…so just knowing that I didn’t have water with me, suddenly I unrealistically began to feel really thirsty! I sat there wondering: If I had a bottle of water sitting next to me, would I have a desire and a need for water as badly as I was at that moment? The answer is, probably not! My water bottle was out of reach, therefore I wanted it more. My thirst was consuming me. That was all I could think about. Was I obsessing because I wanted and needed something that I didnt or couldnt have?

What is it that makes us want something more if it is forbidden or out of our reach? Is it that we are not content with what we do have? Is it that we think in greedy ways? Is it that we feel more secure with “Things”? Is it that we feel entitled or that we deserve to have it and have it now? Is it really simply a control issue or related to an underlying power struggle issue? Is there a deep innate longing that psychologically we can’t even understand? Is it an attribute of an compulsive personality?

I remember when I was in high school; if my Mom told me I couldn’t do something, it made me want to do it even more. If she was okay with me doing something, then I really evaluated whether or not I wanted to do it. Did I want to go almost to spite her? Did I want to do that thing just because I couldnt? Were my longings bred out of a desire to go against the grain? Did I just want what I couldnt have?

If there was a boy I was crushing on, but he was “taken”, he instantly became more attractive to me because I couldn’t have him. Desire was born. My desire to have what I wasn’t supposed to have or what I was told I couldn’t have would grow as a result.

This affects people at every age. Toddlers often display a fantastic example of this. They always want what they can’t have. Teenagers are a close second in this race. I see this behavior a lot in adults who are trying to kick a habit, who have an addictive personality, who are trying to diet or stay on a workout routine. Alcohol, drugs, donuts, and the couch call their name. It is their forbidden fruit and it truly is the sweetest.


Here is an example of my forbidden fruit: I think I like sweets. Whenever I am at a function where there are sweets, I have a great desire to eat them, I feel as though I must eat them. Not that I eat a lot of them at one sitting, but I need to taste themeven if I am full. I often wonder from where this desire stems. When I truly ponder the taste and the sick feeling I often feel after indulging, I really don’t think I like sweets as much as I believe I do. I have given this a lot of thought, and I think subconsciously it has to do with me not being able to have many sweets as a child. It was always a special treat to have dessert when I was growing up. It was somewhat forbidden. Today, I think somewhere deep down in my psyche, I feel that if I don’t eat that piece of pie, that there may not be another chance to have one. I know that sounds really odd, but I think we all think and feel that way on some level when it comes to our forbidden fruit…whatever that may be. I have to have it and I have to have it now!“…Do you ever feel like that?

 We are under the false assumption that if we dont get it now, it may not be there later for the taking!

Take Action: What is your Forbidden Fruit? This week and beyond, lets try to tune into what our forbidden fruit is. If it is dangerous, like too much alcohol or drugsplease seek the help and support you need. If you are trying to eat well and work out, and your forbidden fruit is junk food or anything that keeps you from the gymfind some support and be accountable to someone. Whatever it is for youan unhealthy relationship, spending too much money, etc…take steps to not give in to it. Sometimes the consequences can be smallBut sometimes they can be HUGE!


Comments

  1. Excellent insight as always, Sweet D!
    IMHO, I believe that many affairs are rooted in this very notion as well.
    Substances, relationships, activities – whatever the source, this is good lesson for all!
    g

  2. Another great one D! And did you ever stop to think that sometimes your brain likes to play tricks on you… and tempt you even more by saying…”oh, I don’t do it that often, or “one or two won’t hurt”, or something else to not make us feel guilty about eating our forbidden fruit.

    xoxo Gina

  3. Gigi Peterson says:

    Hmmmmm…my forbidden fruit. Oh, there are many. This is perfect timing, as I am trying to kick some very unhealthy habits. Thanks for the reminder. Love ur blog!!!

  4. Diane Morrison says:

    I just LOVE my Monday-Morsels!

    Thanks, De!

    Monday Love,
    Di

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