The other day I was pulling out of our neighborhood and onto a four-lane highway. Just as I was turning left, I could see a car out of the corning of my right eye rounding the curve and heading my way. My initial reaction was to hesitate, let off the gas, and make sure the car was going slow enough so that I would be able to make the turn and be safely ahead of it. In a flash, I decided that I had looked before turning and that I had enough time and space. I got on the gas, made my turn, and was way ahead of the car in question. If I had second-guessed my calculation and hesitated just a few seconds, there may have been trouble on the road.
As I sped down the highway, I reflected on the past few minutes. All that went through my mind while I was turning was very similar to things that go through my mind while navigating this ride we call life. Sometimes, I find that no matter how many times I have dotted my “I’s” and crossed my “T’s”, I hesitate and have self-doubt. How often are we so sure about something, only to second-guess ourselves in the final hour? We all have been there, and we all do it probably more often than we would like to admit.
When we are filled with self-doubt, we are letting our Ego get the best of us. That little, annoying voice that repeats negative thoughts in our mind, like “Who are you to think you can do this?“, “You are not good enough!“, “Nobody will take you seriously!“, “You are dreaming!“…and the list goes on and on. How many times have you heard this voice, believed it, and then hesitated. When we hesitate, we are not acting in our own self-confidence. We know we are prepared and that we are good enough, but we let that self-doubt nudge us over into the slow lane.
We all have goals and dreams. However, so many of us do not pursue them because we second guess ourselves, hesitate, and then sit on the sidelines. We self sabotage. We procrastinate. We limit ourselves. We hold ourselves back, all because we listen to that doubtful voice instead of our true voice. Being aware is the first step…once we are aware then we can stifle that voice and move forward with our desire. It will take some practice to silence that voice…but life is a journey of lessons and growth…and it will get easier! Believe you can, and you will!
Take Action: This week and moving forward, let’s notice when we feel self doubt! Let’s be self confident in our abilities and know that we can move forward without hesitating. Let’s reframe our intentions and get back on the road to success!
Because Together is Better,