Excitement or Fear?

I am so excited! I guess you can say I am fearful as well. I have learned that excitement and fear are in the same family, they are just a small perspective shift away from each other. Are you aware of that? You can be afraid of something, but if you shift your attitude and perspective just a bit, then it can turn into excitement. How FUN is that!?!? I have been doing a lot of this lately, and it feels so great! I am stretching and growing so much as a result of this new practice.

I liken it to a roller coaster ride: When I am in a line to get on a roller coaster, I am a bundle of nerves. I am watching the steel car whoosh past me at lightning speed, I am hearing the terrifying screams, and I am anticipating my heart dropping to my toes. I am so nervous and afraid. After I get on that ride, I am thoroughly enjoying myself. Yes, my screams are part enjoyment and part terror…but I am enjoying myself! Inevitably, after I endure the ride and make it through the exit turn style unharmed with my adrenaline flowing…I am so excited and ready to jump right back in line again! Have you experienced this? Can you relate? Which sounds better to you: Excitement or Fear?

Back to why I am excited and/or fearful now: Doors are opening for me! What do I mean exactly? I am a Writer/Blogger. I was approached to be on a radio show. I said yes. I was then asked to be a regular commentator on this radio show. I said yes again. Now, I have been asked to be on a local television program. WOW…who knows where this will lead? I am excited, and I am fearful. This is a normal response, because, just like radio, I have never been on television before.

The fear comes from the unknown, and not knowing if I will do well.
The fear comes from the uncertainty.

The excitement comes from the fact that this is exciting!!! It also comes from the fact that doors are opening and people are calling me to be a part of something HUGE! That is extra-exciting! This is exciting, because the doors that are opening are an outlet for me to reach more people, to get my written words and spoken words to the masses!

Have you ever been on the thin line between
excitement
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and fear?

Why do we automatically default to fear instead of excitement? Why are we filled with self doubt, as if we can’t do anything we set our minds to doing? I want my natural default to be excitement instead of fear. What about you? If they are so closely related, why is it so hard to make that mental shift? It is our stinking programming that we need to adjust. Somewhere along the road, we were told that we were not able to do something. We were told that we were not as good as the rest. We were told that other people succeed, not us. Even if we weren’t “told” by someone verbally, our own ego, our own subconscious has told us that we are not as good as other people: Maybe it was just a small comment from a teacher that stuck with us. Maybe we have failed in the past, and now our self-confidence is not so healthy. Maybe we just never gave ourselves a chance to get excited because we were overcome with fear.

So, we need to erase that “Stinking Thinking”! We all have it; even those of us with the highest self esteem have self-doubt. Nobody is perfect, and nobody is completely confident all the time. So, let’s reprogram our thinking. When that “Stinking Thinking” creeps in, we need to replace it with the confident thoughts that we were born with but may have forgotten. Have you heard the expression, “Fake it till you make it”? Well, this is very powerful, and it works! If you are feeling fearful about something, replace it with confidence-building words and self-talk. I did this with my first radio show, as I was nervous and afraid of how I would do and how I would be received. By my third show I was feeling very comfortable. I will do this with television as well.

With what situation in your life can you use this technique?

Take Action: Let’s make a conscious effort to switch our emotions from fear to excitement! Let’s notice when we are having self-doubt and “Stinking Thinking” and fill our minds instead with confident and empowering thoughts. We are the only person who is in charge of our thoughts and attitudes… Let’s begin taking control of them and enjoy the ride!

Because Together is Better,

Comments

  1. Deanna,

    I am happy for you that doors are opening. I agree that together is better. I find myself in a similar situation being that I am hosting a hangout tomorrow, which is new territory for me.

    Cheers,
    Victoria

  2. Yes to Excitement over fear- and a great reminder, love the images thanks

  3. Congratulations on all of your opening doors, but mostly on being brave enough to step through them. Your perspective shift deserves a celebration!

    I have been teaching my clients the same ideas for a while now. I haven’t used a roller coaster as a visual but I love that idea. I ask them to think about the champagne bubbles that are in their stomach and to name them either anxiety or excitement. The physiological reaction in your stomach is often the same but naming them with the different emotions gives them a different kind of power making them fun and encouraging bubbles rather than something that holds you back. Because it is all about perspective.

    Good luck with everything!

  4. Congrats on your opportunities – the universe is certainly encouraging you to be fearless… and fabulous!

  5. Hi Deanna! I love the last quote: “If it scares you, it might be a good thing!”
    I am not one for roller-coaster rides, they really DO terrify me but I much prefer not giving into fear and living life – which is, frankly, roller-coaster enough! 🙂

    • I love that quote too Louise…we so often steer away from things that scare us instead of making that shift to excitement! Thank you for your insight! -Deanna

  6. Deanna – I loved this — an needed to hear it too! I too was approached to have a weekly show on a website that offers eTV shows. I was, well am, very scared! It is a big opportunity for me. I will have to work on being excited about it rather than scared! I can’t let the fear keep me from taking full advantage of the great opportunities that come along. Thanks!!

  7. I absolutely love your quote about life being like a roller coaster…what an inspiring post! Very well written:)

  8. The roller coaster analogy is perfect! It is something my 11 year-old son realized in December when he finally went on California Screamin’ at Disneyland. He loved it. 🙂 Congratulations on the TV show gig – definitely share when you’ll be on so we can all watch.

  9. Great article. Thanks for reminding us it is all in our perspective.

  10. What a great blog. Yes. You are correct fear and excitement are one in the same except your perspective. Thanks for reminding us that we can change our perspective anytime!

  11. Congratulations on all of your new ventures. I loved this article. All of your comparisons are so true. You really are an inspiration. Thank you

  12. Diane Morrison says:

    “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure! It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?’ Actually, who are you NOT to be?! You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world there is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us it is not just in some; it is in everyone! And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others!”

    That is the ONLY poem I have ever memorized in my life! Thought it was fitting for YOU at this time! Blessings to you, De, and your many continuous successes!

    MUAH!

    • Thank you Diane…I, too, love this quote…although I have not memorized it. Thank you for always reading and sharing and growing with me! MTFBWY -Deanna

  13. I used to love roller coasters but I love it for the excitement.

  14. This was PERFECTLY timed for me! I have suffered from fear for years. But I got up enough courage to go to my HS reunion the same day you posted this. Thank you!
    http://sweetsugarblossoms.blogspot.com/2013/07/its-just-sad-living-with-social-anxiety.html

  15. Congrats Deanna on your new venture! You’ll have to share when you’ll be on tv so we can all watch 🙂

  16. Great one D~fear of failing is a big one for me.. trying to get over that… 🙂
    Keep spreading the lOvE!
    xoxo

  17. Thanks so much for sharing Deanna. I love the quote about life being like a roller coaster.

  18. Roller coaster is such a great analogy and visual. In everything I tend to experience those same feelings of fear and excitement. I never let fear win!

  19. Excitement and fear is part of the oldest sin, Just kidding.

    Great article, I love every word of it Deanna.

  20. This is truly inspirational. I am learning to live with excitement. Everyday, I take a step closer away from Fear. At times, I feel like its a measurement to know if I am moving in the right direction. Thank you for sharing your expertise in this area.

  21. My life is a roller coaster! I go up, then down, and then up again! That’s life!

  22. i would take excitement over fear, but i am a very fearful person. Have to say from my experience the things I have feared the most and pushed my self to over come have turned out to be best things in my life.

    • Deanna, that is a great thing to realize, that when you have pushed yourself to overcome something that these are the best things in life! That history will help you beat your fear in the future! Thank you for your comment! -Deanna

  23. Sometimes we definitely have to get out of our comfort zone which can create fear.. Otherwise we stay complacent and can never grow whether it be in our business or personal life..

  24. Great post Deanna. We all have fear..and some fear is good and necessary. But like you said if we hang onto that fear we allow it to keep us from where we need to go.
    I do something fearful every day by going outside of my comfort zone. Now that is exciting!
    When I find myself holding myself back, I realize I have let the fear-munger take hold. I then quickly visualize the circle of comfort I am in and then take a physical step outside of it to create a bigger circle of comfort from the unknown.
    Thanks for the post

    • Karen, thank you so much for your insight…I love that you do something every day that is fearful. When we overcome that fear, it IS exciting! -Deanna

  25. I loved it in my childhood

  26. Both! Excitement AND fear!

  27. It is neat that you point out the slight difference between excitement and fear. It reminds me of a movie I watched this weekend, “The Call” with Halle Berry. This movie had me so stressed out with fear that I did not enjoy it until things went better in the movie. Did I feel excitement? Maybe, but it didn’t feel that way at the time! LOL!

  28. Congratulations! Your experiences are an inspiration to us all!

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