What Goes Around Comes Around

We have all heard this warning: What goes around comes around. I say it is a warning, because it is usually used to scare people into doing what is right. People say it with an “I told you so” tone in their voice and look on their face…You know that look! Have you been told this? Have you experienced the aftermath of not heeding this warning? Have you thought about this before your actions and therefore had a happy ending?

I can tell you that I have done both.
I have seen the fallout of not taking this seriously.
I have also been on the positive side of this.

I really learned this lesson well when I was 22 years old. I was a single mom, going to college to get my degree and teaching credential. I was not prepared for one of my final exams, so I called the professor and told him I could not take the test that day because my daughter had the chicken pox. Well, she did not actually have the chicken pox. This story can also be a fabulous illustration as to why it is never a good idea to lie…but that will be for another blog.

Well, two weeks later, my sweet little innocent 2 year old daughter came down with one of the worst cases of chicken pox the doctors had ever seen! Yes, that’s right! I’m sure it was all because of my little lie I told to get out of taking a test that day. What Goes around Comes around. I felt so horrible. What are the chances that she would get the chicken pox? Well, I believe it was because of my intentions to get away with something.

Let’s fast forward to this year: My daughter Erin was having a birthday party and one of the mom’s did not RSVP or show up. A few weeks later, she called me for a different reason, but she apologized up and down for not following up on the birthday invitation. I gave her grace and made sure she knew that it was ok and that I understood. Well, guess what? A couple months later I did the same exact thing! I put a birthday party invitation to the side of my desk thinking I had ample time to RSVP…and I forgot about it. I did not RSVP, and we did not take Erin to the party. I felt horrible! I called the mom after the fact and apologized up and down. Guess what? She gave me grace and said she has done the same thing before. She appreciated my apology. I wonder what would have been her reaction had my reaction been a bitter one towards the mom who forgot my party?!?

So, what is something you have done where you have seen evidence of “What goes around comes around”? Have you been on the positive side of it, where you benefitted…or were you on the negative side where you were slighted? What did you learn? Did it cause you to rethink your actions?

Take Action: This week and moving forward, let’s think through our words and actions so they do not come back around and bite us. Let’s react and interact in a way that if our “Goes around” actually “Come around” we will be happy and proud. How will your life echo?

Because Together is Better,


  1. Love this post! Each time I read something on your blog – I’m left thinking. I appreciate it! So many times I’m tempted to tell the “white lie” because it’s easier. Yet – I realize when I fess up – it’s better! Thanks for the reminder!

  2. Great articled, got too many lessons

  3. I love it! Karma really is true. I love your story above and I felt for you with the chicken pox story. i always try to do my best so that I do not get burned, but I am thankful for karma when it hits people that really deserve it that did something bad:)

    • Karma is a natural law…and it is awful that I had to learn it at the expense of my daughter. It was a great lesson though! Thank you for being here. -Deanna

  4. What comes around goes around, but with that said never forget to look behind you to make sure you have not turned into that same person who has caused pain.

  5. What a great post! Always tell the truth and treat them with respect is the key to life that we need to teach our children.

  6. Jeff Brand says:

    Lessons learned from when we are younger are the foundation for us to share with our older wisdom.

  7. Jim Striegel says:

    You have some great tips here….what goes around always comes back around.

  8. I believe in and practice the Law of Attraction, so this post more than resonated with me. (Very well put, btw! I def shared it.) I can’t stand it when people dismiss it on account of it being “new agey” (even though it’s not) because it’s not only commonsense, but it’s also something that many have practiced for millennia. Great post, Deanna!

  9. “Life is an echo.” So well said. This is a great post, great tips and reminders.

  10. Even if what goes around doesn’t always come around, it’s still best to treat others with respect and not to lie. When you lie, you have to remember the lie and it seems to live on long after it’s told. You would think it does happen though because it seems like when you tell a lie it comes back to haunt you.

    • I agree Deborah that it is best to treat others with respect and to not lie. I was not confident enough to just tell the truth to my professor…and look what happened! OUCH! -Deanna

  11. I totally believe in this, my license plate says Karrma for a reason. Thanks for the reminder!

  12. I so believe in this! Karma will always come back on you. If you do others wrong, then wrong doings will be done back.

  13. I think this is true, I try to lead my life by doing the right thing…. I was told when I was younger that you do something wrong then it will bit you on the bum…

  14. This was the perfect thing to read right before bed!! Its so true and I live by this. 🙂

  15. Dov Shapira says:

    What goes around comes around, it’s a cliche and yes you are right, people use it in a negative way even if they don’t mean to.
    Great point Deanna 🙂

  16. I grew up hearing “what goes around comes around” So i was always careful not to do things to people that I would regret, Karma can be quite a B****.

  17. I’ve heard that expression along with what you send out comes back to you 10-fold! In Tucson we also have Ben’s Bells who reminds us to “Be Kind”!

  18. It totally makes the difference in your day whether you get any thing from it or not. Giving grace and allowing others to just be human feels good all the way around.

  19. I’ve seen this happen in a positive way. When I am going through a rough time and feel alone, that’s when I try to help someone else out and that usually changes my situation for the better

  20. thanks for sharing, i love your perspective!

  21. Oh my gosh, thank goodness she was ok with the chicken pox. I 100 million percent follow the ten fold way of life. What you put out to the universe whether positive or negative comes back to you ten fold.

    • Marilyn, I agree with the tenfold. I have seen it over and over again. Give goodness, and goodness will come to you! Thank you for your wise words! -Deanna

  22. Truer words have never been spoken! I try to treat people the way I wish to be treated. Sometimes I meet up with rude people, but I figure kharma is after them. Great post!

    • Sue, that is a great and healthy way to look at it. If we lower our vibration to their nastiness, then that is what we will get. 🙂 -Deanna

  23. great post thanks for the information

  24. I whole heartily believe in this.. Karma is a B$%^!

  25. This is so true! The bible states what you sow you will reap. Sow good things and reap great rewards.

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