Life is Gradual

How does it happen? One day we wake up and life has snuck up on us. We are no longer a child, no longer a carefree twenty-something…we are all of a sudden in our forties…YIKES!

I know a lot of people can get blindsided by extra weight gain, or by being unhappy with themselves in one way or another. They wake up one morning and ask themselves, “How did I get here?” It appears that life is going along as usual and one day your life isn’t what you thought it would be. Have you been in that position? Well, most things in life sneak up on us in a gradual way. We don’t all of a sudden gain fifty pounds, thank God! We don’t spontaneously have four teenagers in the house, double thank God for that! We don’t become an alcoholic overnight and we don’t advance to the top in one day.

Life is gradual.

This is a good thing.
If we are present,
we can make little adjustments along the way.
If we are not present and we are just kind of sleep walking through life,
that’s when things seem to “sneak up on us”.

A few years ago my sisters, some friends, and I vacationed in Cabo San Lucas for a week. We all agreed to go zip lining. Most of us were tentative and not really enthusiastic about the whole adventure. But we were in this together and we all made a pact that it was all or nothing. The first zip was very short and very close to the ground. We did a total of eight zips, and the last one was 600 feet in the air and over 1500 feet across a gully! WOW…it was scary…but we all did it! My point is this: if our last zip would have been our first, I’m not sure I would have gone through with it. But, there was a gradual increase that made me and the other girls very comfortable.

When something happens gradually it is naturally more comfortable than when it happens all of a sudden. This can be a good thing, as in the zip lining scenario. But, we have to be careful and watch ourselves, because we can get into a lot of trouble if we are not being present and in control of our lives.

I have seen many people who started drinking alcohol socially. Gradually, the once a week drink at a party or gathering slowly turned into a couple drinks a week at dinner, to an every night binge. That kind of gradual is not healthy for the drinker or for the people in their lives.

I have known people who have let their health go downhill. They were once fit and active, and slowly they became too busy to exercise and as a result their eating habits became lax and a vicious cycle began. Typically the overweight person realizes at some point that they have let themselves go…but their self esteem has been so injured in the process, that it takes a great deal of motivation and inspiration to reverse the negative effects.

We all have our struggles and shortcomings, and being aware of them is the first step to becoming healthy! If we are present, then we can safely monitor where we are and where we want to be. Setting realistic goals and having a healthy support system is a must…then the sky’s the limit! Just remember: Returning to health will also be a gradual process; be patient with yourself, you can do anything you set your mind to!

Take Action: This week and moving forward, let’s focus on being present and making little shifts so negative things in our lives don’t sneak up on us. Let’s evaluate and make adjustments so we are healthy in all respects. Let’s have balance!

Because Together is Better,


  1. Great post! It seems we always want change to happen much quicker than the original “slip”. I know I’m certainly guilty of this when it comes to exercise and healthy eating!

  2. I enjoyed this article and liked your analogy with the zip lining. Love the C S Lewis quote

  3. Deanna, This reminds me of the saying “Life is what happens while we’re busy making other plans.” Slowly, gradually. I am a big fan of incremental change. Every moment I spend in reflection, in gratitude, in generosity, is a moment when I’m not dwelling in the darkness.

    Thanks for the inspiration!

    Love and light,

    • Sue, your comment makes me smile. I love your quote…isn’t that the truth!?! I agree that when we are present and in a state of gratitude, then we can not be in darkness. I appreciate your wise words, thank you! -Deanna

  4. Yet another uplifting and inspiring article. Thank you so much xxx

  5. Find ourselves in our forties? I would love to wake up and find myself in my forties again. But you are absolutely right. Life does sneak up on us very quickly. This is a very nice article.

  6. Life is very gradual, great inspiring post. Some people do wake up during their sleep walk and can’t even remember how they even got started down that path and it makes it hard for them to get started down the better path for them.

    • Marilyn, you are so correct! We need to be present so we are not “sleep walking” as you put it. Well said! Thank you for your wise words. -Deanna

  7. You articles are always so inspirational! Thank you for always staying so positive and sharing your life stories! 🙂

  8. it’s all about the synapse connectors that strengthen or weaken based on repeated behavior

    • Jessica, your comment is interesting and it is making me think in a scientific way. Our minds are so powerful and can do amazing things! I appreciate you being here. -Deanna

  9. Dov Shapira says:

    This is a wonderful realization…

    I built my kids a two story tree house with a zip line

    • Dov, it is very much a realization to stay present and not let life escape you. How fun a zip line in your yard! Thank you for being here! -Deanna

  10. This is awesome to be reminded that life is gradual. It gives us hope that we can make those small adjustments on our way to being who we want to become.

    I ziplined in Jamaica about 2 years ago, I’m not even sure how far up we were, but boy I’m looking back wondering what was I thinking. Yet I’m glad I did it

    • Veronica, thank you for your comment. I do think it gives us hope in that we can adapt to new situations. Neat that you went zip lining…what a rush! -Deanna

  11. Jeff Brand says:

    I know first hand how life can throw you obstacles. I also found your article to be very uplifting and inspirational.

  12. What a great way to look at things and integrate change into your life!

  13. Life is full of opportunities, challenges and changes. Being present allows you to handle them in the best possible way.

    • David, I agree. We all have different trials and lessons to learn…but if we are present, we will surly reap the benefits! Thank you for your comment! -Deanna

  14. Deanna,
    A good call made me open my eyes really wide. Not that I have the issues your speaking of I just feel I like being in that safe mode for so many things in my life. I think today is as good as any to look in my mirror and say something to myself that will inspire me to have more confidence in myself as well as the crafts I do. I hold myself back and in turn that’s just unhealthy, so thanks for reminding me that just because I’m 57 does not mean I’m dead!

    • Fern, I am so happy that this post allowed you to think a little differently and to move forward! Sometimes we just need to shift out mindset just a bit to engage forward motion! I appreciate your comment! -Deanna

  15. Great post, Deanna! It sure does sneak up on us! This morning I woke up, looked in the mirror and said, “Who is that old woman wearing my pajamas?”…Actually, I really said, “Who is that hot senior citizen?” (Smile)
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    Enjoy the ride of life, every stage is great! And yes, I’m glad it happens gradually.

    • I love this comment, thank you for making me laugh! It is gradual, and that can be a great thing if you are present and on the path you want to be on! -Deanna

  16. Very inspirational! I can’t agree with you more. Everything does happen gradually and one should be aware. You don’t want to get into occasional bad habits because they could turn into permanent bad habits if you aren’t aware and don’t pay attention. Thanks for the wonderful article!

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