Fear is quite an interesting thing. It is different for everyone and comes in all shapes and sizes. Some fear lasts a lifetime, and other fear seems to mysteriously appear out of nowhere. Fear can cover a huge spectrum; from fear of getting a splinter to fear of dying. What is fear exactly and how do we overcome it?
Since fear is a personal thing, and not everyone has the same fear, how does it become ours? How can one person be afraid of heights and not be afraid of spiders? I have met people who honestly are not afraid of anything. Doesn’t this make you want to learn more about fear? The notion of fear piques my interest as well.
Fear is a psychosomatic response, meaning it is purely emotional and mental. This implies that it is different for everyone, depending on the individual’s past experiences and mental and emotional state. Fear is also a very real response, because it is based on the individual’s experiences. What do you fear?
Here is a basic definition of fear:
Fear is an emotion induced by a perceived threat which causes entities to quickly pull far away from it and usually hide.
It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger.
Fear is an emotional response to danger, but unfortunately, a lot of us feel fear when we are not in danger. We feel fear based on our thinking about what may happen. We are thinking about our past; and therefore worrying that the same awful things will occur again…or…we are worrying about future situations that may never even occur.
So a lot of our fear is simply based on worry.
You may have a real fear of something, because it has already happened to you, but it is pretty unlikely that it will. For us to worry and be fearful of something that has never happened to us is very unproductive and stifling.
Worrying (or fearing) is praying for something you do not want!
That is exactly what we are doing…focusing, praying, and attracting to us something we do not want. So, when we notice we are being fearful or worrying about something that will unlikely happen, we need to replace those detrimental thoughts with healthy thoughts. We need to think about what we do want and focus on that.
If you worry about not having enough money, then you are attracting “Not having enough money” into your life. If you are fearful of always being alone, then you are attracting “Always being alone” into your life. If you fear spiders, I bet you run into spiders more often than someone who does not have that fear.
Take Action: Let’s begin to be aware of what we worry about and what we fear. Let’s try to retrain our brains, so that when these stifling thoughts come to mind, we can replace them with what we do want! Remember, most of the things we worry about or have a fear of never happen! Let’s shift our focus and dissolve our worry and fear!
Because Together is Better,