Lose the Fear

Fear is quite an interesting thing. It is different for everyone and comes in all shapes and sizes. Some fear lasts a lifetime, and other fear seems to mysteriously appear out of nowhere. Fear can cover a huge spectrum; from fear of getting a splinter to fear of dying. What is fear exactly and how do we overcome it?

Since fear is a personal thing, and not everyone has the same fear, how does it become ours? How can one person be afraid of heights and not be afraid of spiders? I have met people who honestly are not afraid of anything. Doesn’t this make you want to learn more about fear? The notion of fear piques my interest as well.

Fear is a psychosomatic response, meaning it is purely emotional and mental. This implies that it is different for everyone, depending on the individual’s past experiences and mental and emotional state. Fear is also a very real response, because it is based on the individual’s experiences. What do you fear?

Here is a basic definition of fear:
Fear is an emotion induced by a perceived threat which causes entities to quickly pull far away from it and usually hide.
It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger.

Fear is an emotional response to danger, but unfortunately, a lot of us feel fear when we are not in danger. We feel fear based on our thinking about what may happen. We are thinking about our past; and therefore worrying that the same awful things will occur again…or…we are worrying about future situations that may never even occur.

So a lot of our fear is simply based on worry.

You may have a real fear of something, because it has already happened to you, but it is pretty unlikely that it will. For us to worry and be fearful of something that has never happened to us is very unproductive and stifling.

Worrying (or fearing) is praying for something you do not want!

That is exactly what we are doing…focusing, praying, and attracting to us something we do not want. So, when we notice we are being fearful or worrying about something that will unlikely happen, we need to replace those detrimental thoughts with healthy thoughts. We need to think about what we do want and focus on that.

If you worry about not having enough money, then you are attracting “Not having enough money” into your life. If you are fearful of always being alone, then you are attracting “Always being alone” into your life. If you fear spiders, I bet you run into spiders more often than someone who does not have that fear.

Take Action: Let’s begin to be aware of what we worry about and what we fear. Let’s try to retrain our brains, so that when these stifling thoughts come to mind, we can replace them with what we do want! Remember, most of the things we worry about or have a fear of never happen! Let’s shift our focus and dissolve our worry and fear!

Because Together is Better,


  1. There is no shame in having fear, but acknowledging it and moving on brings so much more satisfaction. It’s the law of polarity- there is always a better way to look at anything. Focus on what you want with GRATITUDE, not on what you do not want with FEAR. Thank you!

    • Robin, your words are ringing so true in my ears, thank you so much! Fear and Gratitude cannot be felt at the same time, so we must choose! -Deanna

  2. Yes, very interesting post, Deanna, thanks !

    Most of our imagined fears comes from education, government, media, movies, religions etc… this since childhood, we feed our “Brain” with. Real fear is real, is when we could burn our finger or have an accident, as you say this real fears comes at the moment they have to come, when we think about be careful, they will come over us.

    I just post this morning this on FB: “Fear is the most fearful teacher. Not fall in their pit.” with a very nice picture.

    Everybody welcome on FB(Hilde Plasman) and Twitter: universenergie.

    Namasté, Hilde.

    • You are right Hilde, most of our fear and worry is programmed from childhood. I have learned a lot about this. I love your quote!

  3. I remember years ago reading about the fear monster and its scary shadow growing larger and larger from mostly imagined outcomes that would never ever happen. Your post was a great reminder. Especially loved the photo graphic reminder that most of the things we worry about never even happen. When I experience fear, I notice, send love, and move on.

  4. Fear can get us all tangled up in emotional knots but it’s just information and we can choose to act of it or not. Grizzly bear = acting on my fear.
    Afraid I’ll be later for a meeting because I’m stuck in traffic? = stay calm, accept the situation, call ahead and chill out!
    Great post Deanna

    • Jo, I love the examples you gave…so true! Fear is real in certain circumstances, and we need to learn the difference. Thank you for your wise words. -Deanna

  5. So true. Fear can be a great motivator but also paralyze you. It really is depends on what you decide to do with it.

    • I agree Sarit! Some people are so used to feeling fear and worry that it is comfortable for them in that place. We must first recognize that is where our thoughts are in order to change them! -Deanna

  6. Amen to that! I am in. I choose to focus my heart and mind on that which I want and choose to let go of fear and worry. Releasing anxiety to my higher power. I ask for heavenly assistance with this rewiring 🙁

    • Nadia, thank you for your energizing comment! I love how you make a deliberate choice to release fear and worry. They serve a purpose if you are in danger, but not if you are not! -Deanna

  7. Great post Deanna and so true. I have found personally over the last few years that all I have to do is slightly change my perception of whatever is taking place and the fear disappears. It really is all about how we view things.

    • Cali, this is so true! We can look at things in so many different ways. We usually stick to our “story” about something and that is when we stay stuck! -Deanna

  8. Thanks for pointing out that much of what we fear NEVER happens, and that we can deliberately use strategies to heal our fears.

  9. The biggest thing I worry about is the safety of my children. When I catch myself in that fear mode, I must tell myself to release the fear and allow the universe to support all of our health and safety. With seven kids, it’s a mantra I end up repeating quite often! 🙂

    • WOW Sheila…seven kids! I guess you must worry from time to time! But, as you said, it does no good. I like the way you handle fear! -Deanna

  10. For many years before I started my web design business I wanted to do a photography business. I was always afraid of failing at it. But then I realized that the only failure was not trying.

    • Bradley, that is such a bold statement…and so try…the only failure is not trying! Thank you for that story, and I am glad you looked fear in the eye! -Deanna

  11. I am not a big worrier, but it is true that when I worry about something, it doesn’t really help. And what I was worried about doesn’t even happen.

    • Yes, Veronica, most things we worry about never happen, so to worry is a waste of good energy! We just need to catch ourselves in the act! -Deanna

  12. This is really true.. Fear can really hold you back – great article!

  13. Fear can be a good motivator or sometimes leave you paralyzed. For me it’s not about conquering the fear more about recognizing it taking a deep breath and move through it. Because you’re right most of the stuff we worry about never actually even happens.

  14. Sometimes fear can be a great motivator. Love this quote by Henry Ford: “One who fears failure limits his activities. Failure is only the opportunity to more intelligently begin again.”

    • Laurel, I love that quote and I agree that fear can be a great motivator. I think we often worry about things that never come to fruition, which is a bad use of our energy. -Deanna

  15. Yes, I agree: “Worrying (or fearing) is praying for something you do not want!”

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