I know this will sound disgusting to you, but it is a true fact: When you have a scrape or a sore or an open wound of some sort, it will heal a lot faster if you do not pick at it. If you do pick at it, it will fester. Picking leads to festering!
Noun: A sore that has become inflamed and formed pus
Verb: Ripen and generate pus.
I know it is sometimes hard to leave those sores and scabs alone. We think, “If I just pick it off then my skin will get back to normal much more quickly.” Well, in fact, the opposite is true. When we pick, it will not only fester, it will take much longer to heal. If we do not take care of it and make sure it is clean, we can also develop an infection, which leads to much more pain and suffering. Our wound will sometimes bleed and the healing process will have to start all over again. Often if we pick over and over, we will develop a nasty scar that will forever be a reminder of our initial injury.
Just as when we pick at a sore on our skin, we can pick at situations in our lives and they too can fester. When we are constantly thinking about and talking about and focusing on the sore in our lives, that sore will grow and not heal or go away. I bet you can think of a situation right now that you love to “pick” at. It is a sore in your life and you can’t seem to leave it alone so it can heal. You continually pick the scab off just when it is about to fall off by itself.
Why do we do this to ourselves? We so badly want to heal from old wounds, yet we continually think about the pain and relive the scenario over and over in our minds and in our words. Sometimes we think it is therapeutic to rehash and talk about old hurts. This is true initially, to get our feelings out and vent. But going back to reopen the wound does no good. So, how do we stop this negative cycle? It may be easier said than done in the beginning, but all it takes is practice! It is just like any habit; we must catch ourselves in the act and immediately change our actions. Like trying to stop biting your fingernails, with consistency, you will prevail. So, we must turn it around. Here is an example:
Old Sore Thought: “My ex-boyfriend is such a jerk! I still can’t believe he left me for her!”
Better Healing Thought: “I am so glad I am not with that cheater anymore!”
Healthiest Healing Thought: “I learned so much from my ex-boyfriend. I am glad I was with him and I am so glad I am now on a better path.”
Take Action: This week and moving forward, let’s notice when we are picking at an old sore and allowing ourselves to fester. Let’s stop ourselves in our tracks and reach for Better and Healthier Healing thoughts. Let’s stop picking at our old wounds and allow our sores to heal with no scars.
Because Together is Better,