Saying goodbye is never easy. Whether it is in regards to a loved one, a pet, a home, a car, or anything you love…it is hard. A few months ago, my husband and I began talking about selling my car and getting something a little smaller and easier on the gas usage. We began to research what car we wanted to buy. This part of the adventure is always fun; anticipating a new car, looking at features, and test driving. Just last week, we got really serious about selling our car, and purchasing a new one. We narrowed down which car we wanted to buy, and my husband had my car detailed and it was ready to put on the market. I had no idea my car would get such a great response and sell so quickly.
This sale happened in two days.
I don‘t think I was mentally or emotionally ready.
I was still in shock as the new owners drove off in my car.
This idea was just an idea at this point.
We hadn‘t even purchased my next car yet!
You may be thinking that I am being overly emotional or silly; after all, it‘s just a car! I agree with you to a point. But as I was cleaning out my personal things, I was able to reflect on my life with this car. There is a very intimate relationship with anything you love, whether it is inanimate or not. There were memories built and there are heart ties that bind me to this car.
I reflected over the past seven years: This car was a Mother‘s Day gift from my husband to me. This had been such a great and reliable car. It was fast and sexy and did a super job for our family. It took us on many fun family trips, carted friends and family around, and was fun to drive. This car brought home our 4th daughter from the hospital when she was born. We taught our oldest daughter how to drive with this car. The last time I saw my Dad before he passed was in this car. My husband and I went on a lot of really great dates in this car, and had a lot of meaningful conversations. We have listened to a lot of fun music with her awesome sound system, and we have laughed and danced in this car. This car effortlessly pulled our boat. Our kids grew up riding and sleeping in this car to and from many events. There were many teachable moments had in this car. It was fun to drive her because she was fast and responsive and people moved out of my way! She was tall and safe and protected us. She was a part of our family!
One day selling her was just an idea, and the next day a stranger was driving it home so he could make family memories with her. This was so bittersweet for me. I guess the abruptness of it all didn‘t allow me to say goodbye slowly over a period of time. Anything that is rushed like this really feels unnatural. As with anything we have to say goodbye to, time will make it easier. Sad emotions will be replaced with happy memories. I will remind myself that it is just a car, and I am sure I will love our next car just as much and we will make her a part of our family too!
What have you had to say goodbye to in your life?
Have you noticed that time has made it easier?
Have you been able to replace sad emotions with happy memories?
Please share with us in the comments below!
Take Action: This week and moving forward, let‘s say our proper goodbyes. Let‘s feel the sadness of losing something and then turn those sad emotions into happy memories. Every day, let‘s appreciate what we have and build beautiful memories so we can someday reflect with happiness and not regret!
Because Together is Better,