Contrast is Essential

contrast

We are so great at thinking and talking about what we do not want, aren't we!? We can dwell in that place for days, months, years, and beyond. Why do we do this? It serves no purpose. It only allows us to be stuck there and to attract more things into our lives that we do not want. This can be anything we do not want: Financial hardship, a bad relationship, health issues, a mean boss, self loathing, moving to a new state, a job, a messy home, and the list goes on. When we continually have these thoughts in our conscious mind, our sub-conscious mind is busy at work bringing what we are focusing on into our lives. Knowing what we do not want is called contrast, and contrast is neutral and contrast is essential. The best way to become clear about what you do want is to briefly (as long as … [Read more...]

Audio Mindset Minute: “Covering Up Our Perceived Flaws”

Mindset Minute

We all have things we think are flaws about ourselves...but are they really flaws? I think we are our own worst critic, and if we can look at ourselves as whole and perfect, we may just feel more confident to be who we truly are. Take a listen and in 5 minutes you may feel a little differently about your perceived flaws. Because Together is Better, … [Read more...]

Move Over Pride and Ego!

move over pride and ego

I have known so many people throughout my life who let their pride and ego get in the way of forgiveness. I have been one of those people at times. I'm sure you have as well. I know it is hard to forgive sometimes. It feels like it is a "give" on our part or like we are excusing the wrong behavior...but we also rationally know that hanging on to a wrong only hurts us. We are so stubborn at times. What makes us think that not forgiving someone is healthy or will do any good? Why would we think that holding on to that negative energy will hurt the other person? The energy of un-forgiveness is so very heavy. When we look at it in that light, it seems so very silly, doesn't it? We are intentionally hurting ourselves...that is so counterproductive! I know that when we are in the emotional … [Read more...]

Audio Mindset Minute: “Do Something for YOU!”

Mindset Minute

We all do so much for others while wearing multiple hats. We need to make sure we are taking time out for ourselves so we don't burn out. Listen in and then do something for you! Because Together is Better, … [Read more...]

Radio Show: “Follow Your Passion!”

Radio

When we were children, we were passionate about so many things. Most people I know have forgotten what their passions are. They walk through life half asleep, just going through the motions. Let's find our passion and truly begin to live again! Join me so you can begin to "Follow Your Passion"!  My segment begins at minute 2:41 -Deanna Popular Lifestyle Internet Radio with TNTBS on BlogTalkRadio … [Read more...]

Lose the Fear

lose the fear

Fear is quite an interesting thing. It is different for everyone and comes in all shapes and sizes. Some fear lasts a lifetime, and other fear seems to mysteriously appear out of nowhere. Fear can cover a huge spectrum; from fear of getting a splinter to fear of dying. What is fear exactly and how do we overcome it? Since fear is a personal thing, and not everyone has the same fear, how does it become ours? How can one person be afraid of heights and not be afraid of spiders? I have met people who honestly are not afraid of anything. Doesn't this make you want to learn more about fear? The notion of fear piques my interest as well. Fear is a psychosomatic response, meaning it is purely emotional and mental. This implies that it is different for everyone, depending on the individual's … [Read more...]

From Victim to Victor

victim to victor

We all have our reasons to be and feel like a Victim. We have all been through situations that seem unfair and have had a negative effect on our lives. We all have had regrets and wished we could go back in time and change things. I am right there with you. I have had my fair share of feeling like a victim in my life. When I was in college, I decided that feeling like a victim and acting like a victim no longer served me. I wanted to prosper and to become a victor. I no longer wanted the negative situations (I call these "Negative Nasties") in my life to control me, my thoughts, actions, and words. I took charge of my life. Are you ready to do the same? I began writing this blog three years ago so that I could help people look at life differently. I write so that I can help people … [Read more...]

Misunderstood

misunderstood

Have you ever been misunderstood? Of course you have, we all have. When we are misunderstood, it doesn't feel good. Our words can get twisted and people can take things the wrong way. When this happens we get a chance to respond. We have a choice: either we can become defensive or we can explain our side with grace. The other day I was misunderstood: A woman emailed me about working with me. I explained that I was going on vacation and that if she requested to be alerted when I returned that I would do so. There is a form she needed to fill out. Well, when I returned she contacted me harshly saying she was going to work with someone else because I did not do what I said I was going to do. She thought I said I would contact her when I was home. I was very professional and explained … [Read more...]

Picking Leads to Festering

picking

I know this will sound disgusting to you, but it is a true fact: When you have a scrape or a sore or an open wound of some sort, it will heal a lot faster if you do not pick at it. If you do pick at it, it will fester. Picking leads to festering! Fester Noun: A sore that has become inflamed and formed pus Verb: Ripen and generate pus. I know it is sometimes hard to leave those sores and scabs alone. We think, "If I just pick it off then my skin will get back to normal much more quickly." Well, in fact, the opposite is true. When we pick, it will not only fester, it will take much longer to heal. If we do not take care of it and make sure it is clean, we can also develop an infection, which leads to much more pain and suffering. Our wound will sometimes bleed and the healing process will … [Read more...]

Audio Mindset Minute: “Do You Play The Blame Game?”

Mindset

It is so easy to walk through your day, week, month, life playing the "Blame Game".  Tune in to this segment of Mindset Minute to see if you play this dangerously negative game and learn how to stop!   … [Read more...]