Radion Show: “Treat Your Family Like Strangers”


We learn from a very early age to be polite and we are taught to practice our manners when we interact with others. So then, if we are brought up to be polite to strangers, why is it so hard at times to put these lessons into practice with the ones we live with and love the most? Are you ready to "Treat Your Family Like Strangers"? Then please join me and let's learn and grow together! My Segment Begins at minute 6:45 -Deanna Listen to internet radio with TNTBS on BlogTalkRadio … [Read more...]

Look For Opportunities to Learn and Grow

Learn and Grow

This past week, I found myself in a number of different situations which allowed me to interact with many types of people. I had the privilege of talking with people of different ages, mental states, affluence, education, and social stature. All in the same week, I had the opportunity to substitute teach in a young class of special needs children, I was able to help prepare and serve lunch to over 150 homeless people, and I was lucky enough to socialize with my awesome "Small Group" of friends from church. Talk about all points on the spectrum! As I am a teacher and a positive influence to others, I very often play the "teacher" and "counselor" roles. That is what I do and that is what I love! It makes me happy to no end to see the proverbial light bulb come on. It warms my heart to … [Read more...]

All’s Well That Ends Well


A few weeks ago my husband and I went on an eight day vacation to celebrate our 15 year wedding anniversary and his 50th birthday. I made all the reservations at an awesome resort in Hautulco, Mexico five months prior to our trip. I reserved the best room; with a king sized bed, a private swim out pool, and a membership to the Preferred Club...where you get extra special perks. Upon arrival and check in we were told that the hotel overbooked and that our reserved room would not be available until the following day. In turn, we would have to sleep in a less appealing room with two double beds, in a less desirable location, with no private swim out pool. The bed and room situation was bad in and of itself, but the notion of unpacking and repacking and moving rooms was such a hassle and … [Read more...]

Compassion In the Face of Tragedy


I have always known that people are mostly good-hearted. I have seen countless events, which were tragedies or brought heartache, where people pulled together and somehow become one. Differences seem to magically fade to the background, and a mutual respect for life comes to the surface. These situations seem to bare our souls, it strips us of any vanity, and people become real. Their defenses disappear and their motives become clearly humane. It seems that of late, there are more personal tragedies surrounding us. But, in fact, there have always been tragedies in this world…they just appear more numerous and ever-present when they hit close to our hearts. With the media, email, Face Book, and all the immediate ways to communicate, we are alerted instantly and continuously. Think back … [Read more...]

Walk a Mile in Their Shoes


It is so easy to be critical, from the outside looking in, towards someone from your point of view. We all have done it, and it is so easy to judge, not knowing the circumstances or the history or the emotions behind what we are witnessing. We make assumptions based on our past experiences and current moods, leaving compassion behind. This usually happens because we are in a hurry, and we are more worried about our schedule rather than feelings and people. We don't have time to waste on little inconveniences like people and the speed bumps they put before us. It's easy to condemn when it is not us…when it is someone else who is "in the way". Sometimes we are not critical, but we just don't want to be bothered with their"baggage". After all it's not our problem! We are too concerned … [Read more...]

Treat Your Family Like Strangers!


We are trained and taught from an early age to be polite and kind. We learn it at home, in school, and in church. By the time we are an adult, we hopefully have the skills to be polite and kind to people we encounter throughout our day to day lives. Most of the people I run into exercise these examples of "Common Courtesy": They smile, say "Hello", "Thank You", "You're welcome", etc. They hold doors open, let ladies enter first, and so on. We give compliments and smiles freely and naturally. Yes, we all run into the rare person who is having a bad day and who may be in a grump. We usually tolerate those people, and if we are in a compassionate mood, we may even be extra kind and polite in hopes of making their day better as a result of them crossing our path. I have made an observation … [Read more...]

Getting Even

getting even

What comes to mind when you hear the words, "Getting Even"? Do you think of someone who has wronged you? Someone who has said a nasty word about you? Does your blood pressure elevate? Do you relive the nastiness once again and wish harm on someone and retribution for the pain they caused? I think that is pretty normal, after all, we are human. It is normal, but not necessarily the healthiest way to think and feel. You may have heard the quote, "Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and hoping they will die." That concept is pretty silly, isn't it? But we all have thought that. We think bad, revengeful thoughts and hope it somehow affects the wrongdoer. In reality, it only hurts the person holding onto the grudge. I wrote about Holding a Grudge and … [Read more...]

Beauty is Only Skin Deep


When I was in high school and college, I worked in a grocery store as a checker. I met a lot of people during those 8 years and it allowed me a deep schooling on people. I saw all walks of life, from my "regular" customers, to the homeless and poor who came in with dirty change and recycled can money. I got to know people who were on welfare, I met people who drove nice cars, and I got to flirt with the cute firemen. I talked with old people, young people, pregnant ladies, step-parents, single parents, high school drop outs, con name it. It was a wonderful time of life, filled with a lot of growth and contemplation. I learned that if you look into the eyes of people, you can read their story. I saw a lot of worry and hurt, I saw insecurities, walls put up, anger, … [Read more...]

Impact and Influence Others


Funny how it is…well, it's actually quite sad…we usually are more concerned about how other's words and actions will affect us rather than being concerned about how our words and actions will affect others. We've all been there, we've all done it. In class, at work, at a party, we think to ourselves or voice to a friend, "OH NO, there's so-in-so! Whether they speak too loudly, drink too much, are negative, are obnoxious, rub us the wrong way, etc…we would rather not interact with them. They make us feel uncomfortable, we have to make small talk, and we can't wait to be released from their presence. We don't like the way their words and actions affect us. We even do it with strangers…if someone looks different or "weird" we don't want to … [Read more...]

True Love

True Love

LOVE is the most powerful emotion of all. It's at the very top of the Emotional Guidance Scale, and rightly so. We all strive to LOVE and receive LOVE. LOVE protects, it heals, it nurtures, it teaches, it endures, it brings people together, it sets us free, it encourages, it lifts us up, it comforts. "LOVE" is found in the Bible (NIV) 551 times…it must be important and powerful! We are instructed over and over to LOVE one another, to LOVE ourselves, to LOVE God. It seems that if you are ethical, honest, moral, and LOVING…you will get that right back in return. Proverbs 21:21 – Whoever pursues righteousness and LOVE finds life, prosperity, and honor. This past week, unfortunately, we had a terrible family emergency. Without going into any detail, my … [Read more...]