Walk a Mile in Their Shoes


It is so easy to be critical, from the outside looking in, towards someone from your point of view. We all have done it, and it is so easy to judge, not knowing the circumstances or the history or the emotions behind what we are witnessing. We make assumptions based on our past experiences and current moods, leaving compassion behind. This usually happens because we are in a hurry, and we are more worried about our schedule rather than feelings and people. We don't have time to waste on little inconveniences like people and the speed bumps they put before us. It's easy to condemn when it is not us…when it is someone else who is "in the way". Sometimes we are not critical, but we just don't want to be bothered with their"baggage". After all it's not our problem! We are too concerned … [Read more...]

Slow and Steady Wins the Race


I was at my favorite dentist's office a few weeks ago. As Dr. Sara was explaining to me how to gently brush my teeth in order to help my receding gum lines not deteriorate further, a thought came to me: I have inadvertently been ruining my gums while trying to keep my teeth and gums healthy. I explained to Dr. Sara that I use a Sonicare toothbrush, which is supposed to be really great for your gums. She cracked a smile when I told her that I brush back and forth and up and down. She told me that with a Sonicare, you don't "brush" your teeth; instead you slowly move the Sonicare around your teeth and gums and let the Sonicare do the work. Makes sense to me. I want my teeth and gums to have a long, healthy life. Also, I am a good patient, and I usually do what I am told…so now I am … [Read more...]

Treat Your Family Like Strangers!


We are trained and taught from an early age to be polite and kind. We learn it at home, in school, and in church. By the time we are an adult, we hopefully have the skills to be polite and kind to people we encounter throughout our day to day lives. Most of the people I run into exercise these examples of "Common Courtesy": They smile, say "Hello", "Thank You", "You're welcome", etc. They hold doors open, let ladies enter first, and so on. We give compliments and smiles freely and naturally. Yes, we all run into the rare person who is having a bad day and who may be in a grump. We usually tolerate those people, and if we are in a compassionate mood, we may even be extra kind and polite in hopes of making their day better as a result of them crossing our path. I have made an observation … [Read more...]

Impact and Influence Others


Funny how it is…well, it's actually quite sad…we usually are more concerned about how other's words and actions will affect us rather than being concerned about how our words and actions will affect others. We've all been there, we've all done it. In class, at work, at a party, we think to ourselves or voice to a friend, "OH NO, there's so-in-so! Whether they speak too loudly, drink too much, are negative, are obnoxious, rub us the wrong way, etc…we would rather not interact with them. They make us feel uncomfortable, we have to make small talk, and we can't wait to be released from their presence. We don't like the way their words and actions affect us. We even do it with strangers…if someone looks different or "weird" we don't want to … [Read more...]